Back to school is right around the corner. Only this time your child is entering middle school – that rite of passage where they will undergo academic, social, and developmental challenges like never before. While your eager middle schooler is raring to go, you may be secretly asking yourself if you’re truly ready for this auspicious journey. The answer is Yes! With today’s challenges, middle school may seem like the new high school, but below are six tips on how to make the transition seamless for both you and your child. Get your brave on and learn how to survive (and thrive) as a parent of a middle schooler…
6 Steps to Swinging Into Middle School With Ease
Prepare: Middle school isn’t exactly The Hunger Games – but you will fare much better if you know the rules. Procure a copy of the school’s handbook and read it, ideally with your child. Be familiar with the school’s policies. For instance, does the school have a dress code? Is there a general class supplies list? What is the protocol for absences, medications, cell phone usage, etc.? Make sure to complete all emergency card information with several contacts and up-to-date phone numbers for easy communication.
Volunteer: Join the PTA, PTO, or Booster Club. Introduce yourself to the principal, counselor, and teachers letting them know you are available to assist wherever needed.
With school funding at a premium, some ways parents can help are volunteering in the computer lab, chaperoning field trips, selling concessions, leading a book club, or supervising dances. If working with students one-on-one, be sure to check the district’s policy on parent volunteer fingerprinting and/or background checks.
Be a Study Buddy: Check homework once a week or more if your child is struggling. Designate a study time and place free of distractions with adequate supplies, including pencils, paper, dictionary, and calculator. Calendar long-term projects, and be available for assistance or hire a tutor if needed. Many schools offer free after-the-bell tutoring programs or intervention services. Encourage and teach time management and organization skills – before social networking, cell phone, and television time.
Communicate: In elementary school, teachers call home if there is an academic issue, but in middle school the report card is often a parent’s first notification that their child is struggling. To avoid Report Card Shock Syndrome and address problems early on, attend Back-to-School Night and all parent/teacher conferences. Introduce yourself to your child’s teachers, provide email contact information, and let them know you want to work as a team. In middle school, each teacher has their own way of posting homework, grading, and communicating with parents. Ask for a copy of the class syllabus. Communication is key to your child’s success.
Get Social: Your child’s circle of friends will most likely be at the top of their priority list. This is a good time to rally your own parental BFF’s, if nothing else for moral support. In short, get to know the parents of your child’s friends. Arrange a lunch to establish common norms for sleepovers, social networking, etc. Discuss bullying and implementing appropriate safety precautions. Talk over the school’s vision and what you can do as parents to make it the best place it can be.
Be a Cheerleader: As your child enters middle school, he or she will tackle academic, social, and peer related issues. There will be laughter and there will be tears. Let your child know that you are their greatest fan and support. Encourage their strengths and interests with extracurricular activities such as clubs, sports, band, and foreign language. When a problem arises, be there to help but also just to listen. At the end of the day, sometimes a tween just needs a sympathetic ear. Middle school is a challenge, but never let your child forget that you are their ultimate BFF and secret cheerleader.
Have a tween going into middle school? Make sure they feel positive and prepared with Lucy and CeCee's How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School:
This nostalgic read is both fun and informative in its perspective of middle school existence. The author's use of tweenie vernacular adds to character development and theme relevance. - Readers Favorite
(Dana) knows her audience well, and has pitched this book to them perfectly, packing useful information into a fun, frothy read....Any sixth grade girl who's facing middle school as if it were a firing squad will find great comfort here. Both entertaining and useful, How to Survive is a winner. Starred Review - BlueInk Review
Lucy and CeCee's guide to middle-school survival is a fast-paced, funny, and insightful book that will serve to clarify typical teen lingo and behavior for adults and give guidelines to tween and teenage kids who are having trouble navigating the middle-school milieu. - Clarion Reviews
But while the girls' teachings are often amusing, what really makes Dana's book exceptional are the girls themselves....Lucy and CeCee's target audience may consist solely of tweens, but this is a book that can educate readers of any age. - Kirkus Reviews
With plenty of humor and adventure, "Lucy and CeCee's How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School" is a strongly recommended addition to young adult fiction collections, not to be missed. - Midwest Book Review
Which is more important – plot or story? It’s a writer’s debate as old as a scroll of papyrus.
The simple answer is both are critical to a satisfying read. You book nerds know what I’m talking about. The kind of read where ordinary life comes to a screeching halt. You skip meals, stop returning phone calls, and maybe miss a hair wash or two - just so you can keep flipping those pages or swipe that screen.
So, what exactly is the difference between plot and story? Although they are often used interchangeably, plot is the protagonist’s physical journey. Story is the protagonist’s emotional journey. What we’re really talking about is scenes and sequels. There are many ways you can look at this, but it really comes down to cause and effect. Scenes are the CAUSE of a protagonist’s actions and Sequels are the EFFECT of those actions. Put another way, scenes show and sequels tell.
Goal + Conflict = Disaster
Goal – What the character wants. Must be clearly definable
Conflict – Series of obstacles that keep the character from the goal
Disaster – Makes the character fail to get the goal
If a scene is truly effective, the protagonist will fail to reach his or her goal and be worse off than before. (Again, this drives the story forward keeps those pages flipping like Grandma’s pancakes). Side note: Time always unifies a scene!
Reaction + Dilemma = Decision
Reaction – Emotional follow through of the disaster
Dilemma – A situation with no good options
Decision – Character makes a choice and sets up a new goal
If a sequel is truly effective, it will turn the disaster into a new established goal (which won’t be met, of course, until perhaps the end of the story). It will establish the character’s motivation and force him or her to make a choice, which is the key to suspending disbelief. This is the time for any character soul-searching or backstory. Side note: Topic always unifies a sequel!
So to spring back to my original point, both scenes and sequels are what cause the reader to flip pages or swipe screens. They both drive the story. By using scenes and sequels effectively, you as the author control the pace of the story.
For instance, scenes read fast because they’re active keeping the reader engaged, whereas sequels slow down the pace of the story. They give the reader time to breathe and contemplate as they TELL what happens rather than SHOW the events. (The protagonist also takes five as they emote about the success or failure of their actions and think about options for Plan B, i.e. a new scene).
Writing should flow like a song. As with anything melodious, it requires harmony and balance. By interweaving plot and story or scenes and sequels, a writer honors both the pace of the story and the evolution of the character.
So the next time you’re sitting around with your own Algonquin round table writing pals, and the topic of plot versus story comes up, lay it on thick with the scenes and sequels argument. I don’t know about the sequel part but you’re sure to make a scene!
Should one believe the hype about Skype? Absolutely, yes!
My most recent Skype author visit was with the phenomenal fourth grade students from Schwarzkopf Elementary School in Lutz, Florida. While nothing can replace a personal visitation, Skype allowed for an efficient, rewarding experience, bringing the students and me together in a personal and entertaining format. The precocious tweens had prepared questions in advance and having read Lucy and CeCee’s How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School, they were eager to discuss the book and writing process in general. In short, it was a glorious morning!
So for us non-techy types, what exactly is Skype? Skype is an Internet telephone service that allows one to connect with others by video, telephone, or voice messaging. Once you download the Skype software, setting up an account is relatively easy, and utilizing basic services such as video calls is free, which is economical for schools that are often challenged with limited budgets.
Some Skype Author Tips I share with librarians and teachers to help the presentation go smoothly as possible and maximize our time together include the following:
➢Download Skype and open an account if your school doesn’t have one already. (Contact your technology coordinator to make sure you can use the software. Some districts block programs like Skype, and if that’s the case, you’ll want to see if it’s possible to unblock it for your program). Test it out at school to make sure it works.
➢Contact the author to arrange your virtual visit. Set a date and time and decide which videoconferencing program you’ll use and who will initiate the call.
➢Plan the presentation. How long will it last? Will students gather around a computer or will the author be projected on a big screen? Where will kids stand or sit so they can be seen and heard? Have kids write questions on index cards in advance to keep the discussion moving.
➢The day before, set up a “trial call” with the author to make sure everything is working on both ends.
➢Make sure the kids understand that your connection may be lost temporarily during the chat. It helps to have a plan in place for when that happens.
➢On the day of the presentation during Q and A, if the kids seem reticent, you might start things off with a question or two to prompt discussion.
➢If your connection is lost, don’t panic. Just call the author back. It may take a few tries before you establish a good connection.
➢Keep an eye on the clock, and let students know when it’s almost time to wrap up the discussion.
Skype author presentations are a win-win for both authors and schools, who most certainly will integrate them into prevailing Blended Learning curriculum and digital instruction. They are a time saver for busy authors and a money saver for schools. Most importantly, Skype author presentations provide an opportunity for an interactive connection among the literary troika of author, student, and text. Online, interactive school visits are the wave of the future as students, authors, and educators can dialog about the joy of expressing oneself through the written word.
As we all fondly recall, summer vacation is the ultimate! Staying up late into the night, basking in the golden sun, slurping up frothy ice cream concoctions, and yes - hopefully reading a good book or two or three...or three in one day. And why not? It's summer, after all.
Here is a list of twelve of my 2016 fave summer reads for tweens and teens. The list includes some classics and some contemporary, depending on personal choice. Either way, tweens/teens will have a blast getting their read on!!!
Kimberly's 2016 Summer Reading List for Tweens and Teens
1) The Perks of Being a Wallflower - Stephen Chbosky
Self-Promotion is a necessary evil that perhaps can't be cured but most certainly treated. Check out my article "10 Practically Cringeless Self-Promotion Ideas for Authors" featured in this week's Publishers Weekly:
D.E.A.R. is an educational acronym that stands for Drop Everything and Read. It’s much frothier than the dated S.S.R. – Silent Sustained Reading, which sounds a bit torturous to even the most avid reader.
April 12th is the official National D.E.A.R Day. It is the birthday of the beloved author Beverly Cleary who created one of my all-time favorite childhood characters – Ramona Quimby. On National D.E.A.R. Day, families are encouraged to read together while promoting books as an integral part of daily life.
So how will you be celebrating D.E.A.R. Day? Fun activities to do with family, friends, or an impassioned book club include making bookmarks, reading favorite passages, and acting out scenes. Character charades, anyone? While April 12th is official D.E.A.R. day, every day is a great day to Drop Everything and Read! So – drop those agonizing bills, take a break from Facebook, and get your read on!
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