An Excerpt From the Award-Winning Tell-All
Lucy and CeCee's How to Survive (and Thrive) in Middle School
In middle school you will be assigned a guidance counselor who is sort of like a “tween whisperer.” Guidance counselors take on a sympathetic view of the adolescent by providing academic and emotional support. You see, we tweens are going through a difficult time (as if you needed reminding). Changes are rapidly taking place physically, psychologically, and emotionally, and sometimes we need the ear of someone older and wiser who’s not a parent and or teacher. Enter: The Middle School Counselor
You will probably meet with your guidance counselor at least once or twice a year. Sometimes more, if you are having academic troubles or personal problems. Either way, be open and honest during your one-on-one sessions. Your guidance counselor is there for one reason and that is to support you. Tell them what’s going well and what isn’t. They’ve taken a lot of adolescent psych courses and know a lot about helping tweens.
Counselors provide support in a variety of ways. You can use them to discuss or receive support both individually or in a small group setting. Some of the things counselors can help with are:
♥ Academic skills support
♥ Test-taking skills support
♥ Time-management and organizational skills
♥ Career options and planning
♥ Habitual discipline issues
♥ Class schedule changes
♥ Dangers of substance abuse, like drinking and drugs
♥ Peer relationship support and mediation if needed
♥ Counseling for stressful situations, such as tragedies, loss, or suicidal thoughts
♥ Counseling for dramatized students who have trouble dealing with the stress of middle school
Dear Diary ~
After thinking about it all weekend, I wrote a request 2 see Ms. Clark about the whole cyberbully sitch becuz everyone knows cyberbullying is no joke. Basically she had me show her all the text messages and took lots of notes. Then she left 2 go talk 2 Mr. Payne. Long story short, they traced the calls 2 Kandi Klass’s phone (big shocker) and now she’s N uber trouble with her parents and school police and may even get transferred 2 another school. Imagine Madison Heights Middle School without Kandi Klass?
So after all the drama, Ms. Clark got all C.S.I. on me and started asking questions on how my year went and what she could do 2 help me succeed. That’s when I just started telling her EVERYTHING that was buggin’ me. Including that I’m flunking Life Science, lost my B.F.F., and totally getting stalked by Lyle Whitehurst. Ms. Clark listened, nodded a lot, and then explained that seventh grade can be a confusing time but that I still need 2 control the chaos and focus more on my studies. I knew that lecture was coming but somehow it sounded different coming from her. She also suggested I stop racking up so many tardies (26) and detentions (5).
Finally when I was about 2 leave, she asked who my B.F.F. was and I said CeCe Cruz. She said, “Well, I hope you and CeCee make up. She’s a great girl.” Then she smiled and said, “Keep it posi, Lucy.”
And I said, “Okay, Ms. Clark. Later.”
Hearts and sunshiny days ahead,
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Today Ms. Clark summoned me during sixth period. At first I thought it was something academic, like tutoring or picking up my awards from the assembly last week when I was home sick. But I was wrong! She wanted to get all intimate and personal, which isn’t my cup of Earl Grey. So of course I was very guarded but then she hexed me with her adolescent psychological voodoo tricks - and it was like my private vault of secrets opened up for all the world to examine – or at least Ms. Clark.
Basically I confessed that I went to the doctor who said I have a predisposition to an eating disorder. He said it was common among adolescent girls - especially ones who put a tremendous amount of pressure on themselves, like yours truly. I told her Mama is having me see a counselor to help deal with it. Ms. Clark said she was relieved I went to the doctor and suggested I also meet with a support group of girls with eating disorders starting next Thursday, period 3. I told her I’d be missing algebra and worried about falling behind but she said my health comes first.
That’s when I turned on the waterworks and started bawling like a baby. I was completely mortified but then I didn’t even care because it felt so good to let it all out. I told her I’m a second-rate, dishonorable friend with monstrous tendencies who lies by omission and doesn’t share anything with her B.F.F. And then I told her I feel positively dreadful about my B+ in algebra and need to make straight A’s because I want to make everyone happy – most especially myself. And then I came clean about Chase and how I was completely smitten but felt way over my head.
She listened really intently, nodded a lot, and then said I have oodles (yes, she used the word “oodles”) of time for guys and not to complicate my life in seventh grade with a serious boyfriend. She also said to embrace the chaos of life and not try to control it so much. There’s nothing wrong with a B+ now and then.
So when I was about to leave she asked who my B.F.F. was and I answered Lucy Pringle, and then she said, “I hope you and Lucy become friends again. She’s a great girl.”
“Me, too,” I answered.
P.S. I’ve never been one for confession-sessions, but overall, it was an enlightening experience. And I have to give it to Ms. Clark. Adolescent psych voodoo aside, she’s very wise - kind of like Gandalf without the staff and beard.